Long absences mean not much time.

So, it’s been a while since I’ve had the opportunity to do any work on this blog. Really busy with work and so on. In any case, I’d like your help with suggestions or questions etc. If you have anything you want advice about, let me know. If there is something you’d like to see, let me know.

I do have one question that someone asked and I will share my advice. The question was:

Q:I will be having a reunion of sorts, and I know there is someone that will be there, that I was really mean to (I kind of bullied him) and I have felt bad about it since then. Should I apologise?

A: Well, first off, you don’t really know the effect the bullying had on this guy. You have to take that into consideration before you decide to try to clear your conscience. Secondly, are you truly sorry enough to go one step further and prove how sorry you are? Third, have you taken into consideration the fact that you don’t know what his reaction will be. You obviously didn’t think about consequences when you bullied this poor guy, and I am not even interested in knowing why you bullied him and for how long. But, by asking this question, you’re clearly showing some remorse.

My advice is to not apologize immediately for your wrong-doing, go up to the guy and talk to him. Ask him how he is, show interest in his life, and encourage him in his endeavors, even if you don’t think they’re worthwhile. Take the time to sit down with him, he’ll see that you’re trying to make it up to him. While you’re talking with him, gauge  his reaction to your interest. Some people simply do not want to re-live those painful memories, and they’d prefer to bury them in the past and let them stay there. Others might be very angry about what happened, but by showing interest, it softens them a little bit. You’re showing him that you’ve changed, just as I’m sure he has too. Another thing is to follow-up with him somehow, maybe give him your number or add him to facebook or something. Finally, if you feel the situation is ok, then apologise sincerely. Don’t make excuses, simply say “I am sorry for anything I said and/or did to you in the past. I hope you can forgive me.”  If you genuinely are sorry, contact him occasionally and say Hi or Hope all is well. Things like that go a long way.

Anyway, I hope that is helpful, if you agree or disagree, let me know. Thanks and take care!

2010 in review

The stats helper monkeys at WordPress.com mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

Healthy blog!

The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Wow.

Crunchy numbers

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The average container ship can carry about 4,500 containers. This blog was viewed about 18,000 times in 2010. If each view were a shipping container, your blog would have filled about 4 fully loaded ships.

In 2010, there were 35 new posts, not bad for the first year! There were 72 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 5mb. That’s about a picture per week.

The busiest day of the year was March 30th with 1,506 views. The most popular post that day was Ricky Martin came out, should you?.

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were alphainventions.com, underwear4men.com, blogsurfer.us, digg.com, and en.wordpress.com.

Some visitors came searching, mostly for men underwear, mens underwear advice, underwear prophet, my hair is getting thinner, and men’s underwear.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.

1

Ricky Martin came out, should you? March 2010

2

Men’s Underwear Advice~the obvious post! 🙂 March 2010
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3

10,000 Hits~Me in my Briefs! I embarrassed myself so you better comment 😉 May 2010
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4

My hair is getting thinner! What should I do? March 2010
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