Some of my recent posts, namely the underwear-related posts have garnered a great deal of attention from some gay men as well as from some straight men. In no way am I judgmental when it comes to ‘crossover-sexuality’, it just got me thinking about sexuality in general.
First, I wonder if many gay guys think about experimenting with the opposite sex, just as many straight guys apparently think about experimenting with the same sex. I chatted with a guy who leads me to believe this happens all the time. Although I am doubtful of that, it makes me wonder, should everyone experiment outside the bounds of their ‘label’ (straight, bisexual, gay, transsexual, assexual)? If you’re safe and feel comfortable with the other person, why not? As long as it doesn’t hurt anyone.
The world is changing, the planet is changing, society is changing, and so are we, sa individuals. But will all of this experimentation lead to a modern-day Sodom and Gomorrah? Humanity has been on a destructive past for millennia, would all of this experimentation and crossover sexuality lead us to a place from which we can never recover? Or will it unite us and bring us together, ‘Make Love, Not War!’ and all that. I am a pacifist religious monogamist and I think that it’s an issue which one must decide for him or herself. I would never encourage an orgy, nor would I ever encourage cheating on the person you love. But what about cyber crossover experimentation? Where does that fall into the scheme of morality? There are so many issues at play in this ever-changing world and right and wrong becomes so much more difficult to judge.
Is it OK to discuss your sexual arousal with a stranger online? Is it better than cheating or is it the same? There is no touching, there is no emotional connection. What happens if people want to experiment outside of their boundaries in a safe way? Or even still, what it it doesn’t even arouse you sexually, but you do it for the other person as an individual? But you get some sort of sexual pleasure from that act of sharing and knowing that it pleases him or her? The gray areas make the world more confusing for all of us.
In this ever-changing world, we do our best to stay positive and be good people, do unto others as you would have them do unto you. We can all experiment with something new, if it goes against your morals, don’t do it. If you’re fine with it, go for it. Be who you are, we only have one life. Might as well enjoy it! All the best!