If I reach 10, 000 hits by the 2 month mark.

May 14th will be 2 months since I began my blog, I’m already at 9000+ hits, which is shocking, really! What can/ should I do to celebrate that milestone? I need suggestions! You can add a comment ( you don’t need to register or include contact info), you can email me at underwearprophet@yahoo.com
or you can send me an IM on the meebo chat window ( I have an iPhone so I’m pretty much always signed in). I will take the top 4 or 5 suggestions and make a poll out of it. So, let me know:)

To divorce or not to divorce.

Q: I’m not happy in my marriage, should I get a divorce?
A: Here’s the thing about not being happy in a marriage, no one is happy 100% all of the time, but that does not mean that taking the easy way out and getting a divorce is the answer. The question you have to ask yourself is, do you want to live your life without your partner in it? That’s hat it comes down to. You can get help and try to find ways to make yourself happy, together. Maybe your partner isn’t happy either, talk to him or her and open the lines of comunication. If this effort proves to be fruitless, perhaps divorce is the answer so that you can both move on and find happiness in your lives, either alone or with someone else. However, the truth is that unless you’re happy with yourself, you’re never going to find happiness with someone else. Work on yourself before you truly move on.
“But we have kids, we can’t get a divorce. We have to stay together because of the kids.” This is, to me, the most bizarre way of thinking and I dont know how responsible adults, who chose to bring children into the world, can think this way. Do you not think the kids are aware of your situation? Do you not think that when you fight, it doesn’t affect the children? The only outcome of this situation is resentment from your children for selfishly putting them through that. That is nothing but a poor excuse and self-centred thinking. My parents were married for twenty five years, for a few years they began to feel unhappy and discontent, when they started fighting on a regular basis and when their fighting started affecting us, do you know what they did? They separated. Eventually they divorced and it was the best thing they could have done for us and for themselves, my mother never re-married, but in time, she has found great happiness on her own. My father is happily remarried and my parents remain good friends, occasionally they all go golfing together. This may sound strange to other people but, it has allowed us a normal upbringing and enabled us to maintain respect and healthy relationships with both of our parents and respectful relationships for ourselves. They truly did what was best for us. My parents, divorced, have a better relationship than most if my friends’ parents who are married.
Above all, if divorce is the only option to salvage your lives, then do it to maintain respect for each other, if it’s not working, get out at a time that will allow you both to move on and perhaps find the person you were meant to be with. If you both feel your marriage is worth working on, then you definitely have enough love for each other to make it worth working hard to make it work.
A marriage means you have to work hard, compromise, and make sacrifices. No marriage is easy, if you think it’s not going to be hard work, you’re wrong. Every day is hard work, but in the end, your hard work will pay off when you grow old together and become one of those 80 year old couples that you see who are walking hand in hand an are obviously still in love. Do you think it was easy for them? No. But they have found the secret to true happiness in every aspect of our lives, hard work.


Blogging success!! Many underwear related.

First off, I have to say how amazed I am at the response and positive feedback I’ve received in the month and a half that I’ve had this blog up and running. Over 7700 people have visited my blog, and it seems I have a regular following from Underwear4Men who have been regularly viewing my underwear post and have also been voting in the underwear poll. Briefs still have a huge lead, followed way behind by boxer briefs and then right behind that is ‘Other’. Boxers are dead last. I’m curious what the ‘other’ people are wearing, one gentleman commented on the comfort of thongs. What else are you guys wearing? What is it about underwear that you find so interesting? What triggered your interest? What was your first memory of being turned-on by underwear? Leave your comments. Please also check out the rest of my blog, there is more than just underwear haha

Fetishes and what can I do to please my lover?

It is clear by the following links, that there are some harmless and some not-so-harmless fetishes people are participating in
The Fetish List
Top Ten Bizarre Fetishes

In less than a month, I’ve had just over 5000 visitors to my blog, which is great, but I have followed the break-down of posts i.e. which ones are being visited the most. I believe that my underwear post and underwear poll have had the biggest number of visits. This got me thinking, why? Well, one word springs to mind: fetishes.
Underwear Poll
Men’s Underwear Advice

Oxford University definies fetishes as • noun 1 an inanimate object worshipped for its supposed magical powers. 2 a form of sexual desire in which gratification is focused abnormally on an object, part of the body, or activity. 3 a course of action to which one has an excessive and irrational commitment.

The truth is, we pretty much all have fetishes in one form or another, something that helps you to become more sexually aroused. Maybe it’s someone with a certain body type, big breasts, big penis, or big rear end. Maybe seeing someone’s feet turns you on. A Korean man stole 1700 shoes over a period of many years, it was enough to fill a warehouse. Most fetishes are harmless within the confines of one’s bedroom, but they can become more and more dangerous if allowed to get out of control. It’s rumored that a singer from a very successful musical group killed himself because of erotic auto-asphyxiation. What is this? It’s an attempt to achieve climax while being strangled. Then, of course there are much more violent acts which are considered fetishes, but are actually violent acts committed against others, I will not get into any of these for many reasons.

Fetishes like shoe fetishes and underwear fetishes are perfectly normal, they are used to simply spice up your love life. Don’t be surprised if your significant other sits up and takes notice if you walk into the bedroom wearing some special lingerie or a new pair of sexy underwear. Or ladies, how about walking into your bedroom with nothing on but a pair of tall stiletto heels or a pair of thigh high boots, the other fetish that goes very well with these is confidence. There is nothing that turns anyone on more than seeing someone with a great deal of confidence. Even if you don’t have the best body in the world, if you’re confident or at least pretend to be, your partner will definitely see a difference and this confidence will turn anyone on. A side note on underwear and foot fetishes,or any fetish for that matter, if these fetishes make you want to achieve arousal to the point where you have to break the law~seek help.

Voyeurism and exhibitionism can be very sexually satisfying, but these can easily cross the line and put you in dangerous situations. I am sure that a large number of arrests every day, aside from vehicle infringements, has to do with either voyeurism or exhibitionism. Voyeurism is the act of watching someone for sexual pleasure. I know of one person who was arrested for masturbating while watching someone else masturbate. Exhibitionism is the act of achieving sexual pleasure from being seen, often by exposing oneself in some way. There’s a famous story of a couple in Toronto’s Sky dome that had sex in front of a window of one of the hotel rooms, to be seen by thousands of people. Was this an accident or an opportunity to be seen by all of those people?

Then, of course, there are some other fetishes which include S & M which is definied by Wikipedia as: Sadism is pleasure in the infliction of pain or humiliation upon another person, while masochism is pleasure in receiving the pain. These include, whips, chains, and all sorts of other devices use to inflict pain on a person. There are usually code words that indicate when the participant has had too much. Although I’m sure it is painful at times, I believe there is a great deal of respect between the ‘master’ and the ‘slave’.

I can’t finish my post without mentioning some fetishes that are considered disgusting by most but, some take a great deal of pleasure in them. A golden shower is feeling pleasure from urinating on someone or being urinated on. There is also the use of human feces, by defecating on someone or being defecated on. I would rather not go into any more details on this topic.

I believe most fetishes are harmless and I say do what you need to do to make yourself happy and spice up your relationship, providing children, breaking the law and violence is not involved. Make sure that both parties are consenting and if you feel uncomfortable about doing something, don’t do it, if the person doesn’t understand then the relationship may need more work than you may think. Sex should make both parties happy, if it doesn’t, seek therapy and work at becoming happy. Take care and happy sexing!

So you want to get a dog, here’s some advice….

Don’t do it. Unless you’re completely serious.

I live in Korea which can be a very transitory place; many foreigners come, get lonely and think to themselves, “I want a dog.” A year long contract finishes and they want to go home, so they post dogs for sale or free dog postings for someone to take their dog because they’re going home. I think these people are some of the lowest human beings on earth. To take a dog in and give it a home and a life and then take that away from them. They think, well at least I gave it a home, yeah you did but you might have taken away its opportunity to go to someone who would take care of it for its entire life. We have two dogs and a rabbit, the rabbit was a foreigner’s rabbit who was going home and blah blah blah.

I had a dog growing up who lived until she was eighteen years old! Essentially owning a dog is like having a child, it is a long committment and you should be willing to make that committment once you get one~ the same applies for any pet! Dogs are very sensitive, believe it or not. How would you feel if you had a home that was taken away from you? Getting a pet and abandoning it is a selfish act, it is a living creature and should be treated with respect. Don’t get a pet for your own selfish needs, make it part of your family and treat it as such. If you want a pet but, you have to ask if you should get one… Look for one with a short lifespan, if you can handle taking care of that, then ask yourself again if you should get a dog. I think your answer will be no. When you don’t even have to ask yourself if you’re ready, then perhaps you should look into it. I would have ten dogs if I could, but I know my life’s limitations. So should you.

Can’t sleep? Need some help?

Q: I can’t sleep, is there anything I can do?

A: I think most of the world can relate to sleeplessness. It is something, for whatever reason, that we have all gone through.

My first memory of not being able to sleep was being so excited for Santa to come and bring me presents, so I lay awake all night no matter how hard I tried to fall asleep. Now, at times, I lay awake thinking about the usual adult things that bring us all stress. Having said that, I went through a several month period of insomnia about 6 years ago. It coincided with my leaving my job in Canada, traveling through Europe and moving to Asia. Understandable, right? Yeah, it is, but understanding doesn’t make it any easier to sleep.

When i moved to Asia, I was faced with living in a bright apartment on a high-traffic road. I would get maybe 1 or 2 hours sleep, for almost a year. Then, after trying several different things, I bought sun-blocking curtains. Then, I started sleeping for about 3 or 4 hours a night. Hooray!!! It wasn’t until I moved out of that apartment that I had my first full night’s rest in about 5 years! That is, in no way whatsoever, an exaggeration. Since then, I have had night after night’s sleep.

Enough about me, let’s talk about some solutions. Clear your room of any unnecessary items and clutter. WE have our bed, two night stands and that is it! We keep our clothes in our spare room, so we never have clothes lying around on the floor etc. Along the same lines, I de-cluttered my apartment completely. The only unnecessary items that we have are books. Everything else has specific purposes. A cluttered home really does mean a cluttered mind, when I cleared all the clutter, a big wave of relief washed over me. Plus, cleaning is soooo much easier.

Quick tips:
1. Put cold water in a bathtub or bucket at night, put your feet in it. I’ve been told that this brings all of the energy down to your feet, thereby clearing your head to let you sleep soundly.
2. Develop a sleep pattern, be realistic about it, your body just needs to know a general time to sleep and to wake up.
3. De-clutter your bedroom (your bedroom should be for sex, if you’re lucky to have it :), and sleeping.
4. Don’t read or do anything mentally stimulating, in bed.
5. Exercise throughout the day, even if it means more walking, at least it’s exercise.
6. Don’t eat anything too sugary or full of carbs in the evening, or 4 or 5 hrs before you sleep.
7. If you haven’t slept in several days and you really need a quick fix, although I don’t recommend it all the time because it is addictive, try some Nyquil. Your body needs rest and after several days of not having rest, your immunity to viruses etc. weakens, Nyquil will at least give you a night’s sleep so that your body can hopefully take control again. It might also be just what you need to get another good night’s sleep. You know the best way to not get sleep is to have several days when you already haven’t slept. Your mind is wandering and you think that because you haven’t slept, you won’t sleep, so your mind starts racing and creating sleep pressure for you. Nyquil is a quick fix, but, I only recommend this if it is something that you don’t abuse. Use it once.
8. Have a glass of red wine before you go to bed, it relaxes you a little and Dr.’s recommend a glass of red wine a day.
9. Remove all of the stress from your life BAHAHAHAHAHAHA I love it when experts give that advice, like it’s so easy to do. Come on people, if we could do that, don’t you think we would?!?! But, try to find new ways in dealing with your stress. Or maybe you are more stressed because of a vitamin deficiency or something of that sort.
10. Go to a doctor. Tell your Dr. the problem, do not ask or accept sleeping pills right away. Have him/her run some tests on you that could solve the problem. Maybe it’s stress that’s keeping you awake, but your body has natural ways to deal with that stress. Perhaps it’s something that can be corrected by a Dr. (hopefully not by sleeping pills) and your body’s coping mechanism will kick in and then, you will have a lifetime of good sleep.
11. If all else fails, maybe it’s a noisy home, like I had. If you really want to sleep, move to a different room, or when your lease comes up or whatever, move to a new home. You are never going to be fully happy until you can sleep, do you want to live somewhere that makes you unhappy? That really isn’t a good investment, is it?
These are just a few solutions, hopefully one or more will work for you. Good luck and happy sleeping!

Summer Vacation Part Deux ~ Europe!

So you’ve saved your money and now you want to know where you should go on a long vacation this summer. If you’ve accumulated enough savings, a backpacking trip to Europe is the way to go!

The great thing about a backpacking adventures, like cruises, is that it gives you the opportunity to see a little bit of each country and it gives you a good idea which countries that you would like to re-visit. I did it for two months and had the chance to see many cities in Europe from Eastern to Western and From Southern to Northern Europe. We went at the end of the summer into early fall. It gave us the chance to visit at a time when the continent wasn’t completely flooded with tourists. The truth is, however, that there are very few places to go where you won’t be overwhelmed with tourists. Anywhere you go in Italy, you will have this problem. Which is easy enough to ignore if you want.

We decided to do the Rick Steves travel route, we followed all of his advice and did almost exactly what he suggested and it was a good trip, unfortunately, it seemed that millions of others had also done the same Rick Steves trip. I say, buy his art book for sheer efficiency. He gives you a detailed list of which art you ‘have’ to see and the fastest routes through the museums to see what you want. The efficiency of the mapping allows you to truly appreciate what you have come to see. Otherwise, there’re a lot of Jesus paintings you will have to weed through. Unless you like Jesus art, and if you have, take your pick because Europe is full of them.

When you go to Europe, there are definite things that you have to keep in mind. It is VERY expensive no matter where you go. Try to travel with at least one male for obvious safety reasons. Pay constant attention to your belongings. I locked my bag every day, and then locked that to my bed. I got drunk one night in Copenhagen, forgot to lock my bag (the only time while I was in Europe I might add), which coincidentally was also the only time not staying in a private or semi-private room, and my Tag Heuer watch was stolen from my bag that was right next to my best friend’s head. I believe it was called The Green hostel, I don’t recommend it. However, Copenhagen was stunningly beautiful, so much so that its beauty still allowed me to enjoy my trip there. That and my best friend who was amazingly understanding, especially since I was being such a bitch at times hehe oops.

My top five favorites are:
#1 Vernazza, Italy WOW!! Stunningly beautiful and we managed to get the most incredible room in the village. We got there and could not find a place to stay, after much walking and searching, we found an incredible room with a terrace over the water. A pure fantasy room. Coincidentally, a friend visited there last year and had taken strangely familiar pictures, she and her friend had also stayed in the exact same room we had. This was our view. Amaaaaaaazing! If you want to stay in the the room, contact me for information and I will send you the contact information. We just happened upon it, but my friend booked it ahead so she actually has the contact info. I can contact her and then send it to you.

#2 Paris~ My trips to Paris have been amazing. My best friend who I traveled with is American, and he experienced no Anti-American sentiments whatsoever. The people were pleasant and kind to us. I grew up speaking French as my second language, but, only felt comfortable to use it when I really needed to. I was frankly embarrassed at how bad it had become. I loved France in general. Provence is beautiful, the south of France is just incredible. LOVED IT! There is also nothing about Paris that I didn’t like, I think this is probably different from many others thoughts, but I can only speak about my experience. When we went to the Louvre, we got there very early and somehow lucked into the one day that the museum’s admission was free. By the time we left, the line up was out the door, through the courtyard and into the street. We walked right in.

#3 Rome~ i really loved everything about Italy too. The food, the history, the city, the people…definitely I will give Rome two thumbs up. If you want to see the sites in one day, do the Rick Steves thing, follow his instructions and you will see what you want to see quickly and then have time to truly explore what Rome has to offer. We did a lot of walking and very little subway taking in Rome, there is just so much to see and enjoy that it is best to do on foot.

#4 London~ SO EXPENSIVE!!!! But, also so worth it. The great thing about London is that some of the best places are free to visit. The British museum, which is one of the best museums in Europe has free admission. Go see some London shows, we got off pretty much every subway stop in London central and walked around and loved it. It’s such a great mix of new and old. I’m first generation non 100% British, so it’s in my roots. I think perhaps this might also have affected my judgement, but I really did love it. There are too many things to see to write about here. Ask me my advice and I will tell you.

#5 Berlin and Barcelona tied ~ This was a tough choice. I actually went to Berlin and expected to hate it, I don’t know why though. When we got there, I fell in love, it’s an incredible city with amazing energy. I loved everything about Barcelona. I love the climate, I love the architecture and the history.. Even despite flying into a rage at one hotel owner who gave our room away after we had a reservation at 1am, I still loved Barcelona. Other favorites include, Gimmelwald, Switzerland. This is a definite must-see for everyone, there is nothing bad I can say about this place. Switzerland is like a fairytale land that I wouldn’t believe exists had I not seen it for myself. Prague, Munich (during Oktoberfest), and of course Amsterdam are also some other favorites. Greece is pretty incredible too! So much to see and do!

Least favorites of Europe~the Spanish people. I was so shocked, I had heard about the French people being rude, but no matter where we went, the Spanish were rude, very unhelpful, the customer service was horrendous and Madrid goes on my list as one of the worst cities I have ever visited. Many many people will disagree with me, but I have now traveled to more than 35 countries and usually if a city is dirty and disgusting, at least the people are kind. But, not in Madrid. It was so unpleasant in every way, I refused to stay longer than a day and it was back to Barcelona. I had always had pleasant experiences with South American and Caribbean Spanish people, but, I honestly did not meet one single nice Spanish person in continental Spain (Ibiza however, was phenomenal with amazing people). I may go back to change my opinion one day, I don’t like to think negatively about a nation of people, so I am willing to try to change my opinion. My other least favorite is the thief in Denmark who stole my very expensive watch! hehe Oh well, it was a valuable learning experience, I learned quickly what is truly important in life. so, I guess I did find myself in Europe.

Save your money, plan your trip and be flexible. Give yourself enough time to go and truly enjoy your time there. Be prepared and be cautious. Overall, just have fun! You worked hard for your visit, you should enjoy it!