A good, kind hearted friend was recently taken advantage of for the millionth time. This situation led to him becoming angry and vowing never to help anyone again. Does this sound familiar? Chances are, it has probably happened to you or it’s something you have done yourself.
First things first, I explained to my friend that no one can make you feel or not feel anything. We make choices as to what we feel in these situations, the best thing you can do is to take that opportunity to control your feelings away from the person who took advantage of you in the first place. Always try to look for something positive in the situation.
Secondly, if you’re always giving something of yourself, you’re taking something away from yourself and giving it to someone else. Why would you put their needs ahead of anyone your own? You are, number one and as the old adage goes, you gotta look out for number one. The fact is, no one else will do it.
Third, what do you get from being the giving person all the time? Ask yourself that, does it stem from some sort of insecurity to always be liked or wanting to appear successful to others? If you want people to think you’re kind, chances are they already know that you are and they already respect you. The others, well, they’re the ones who are going to take advantage of it, so you don’t want to make these grand gestures because they will inevitably lead to the wrong kind of attention~abuse.
Finally, the greatest give you can give to someone is you and your time. That is all that you and your true friends and loved ones want from you. They won’t purposely take advantage of you. The others, well take your time away from them as punishment. If they don’t learn from their mistakes and attempt to make up for this misdeeds, well, they’re the people you don’t want in your life.
Above all, as I previously stated, stay positive and don’t let the negative thoughts affect you. If they do, it becomes a domino effect and your feelings of negativity begin to affect those in your life that truly matter. Don’t allow the person who has taken advantage of you, to also affect your relationship with others.